In my present work environment we talk a lot about “losing the attitude“. Usually it means that your spirits sink so low that you cannot motivate yourself to do the job.
I have realised the other night, however, that “losing the attitude” means – and should mean – a completely different thing. The loss of attitude is not caused by the lack of sleep or the frustration that things aren’t moving as fast as you’d want them to. The loss of attitude is the symptom of how you feel about people around you.
You are surely familiar with the concept of the law of attraction: what you focus on you get more of. The concept was massively popularised by the film Secret that illuminated how focusing on your wishes can make them come true.
When I look at everything I’ve achieved so far I know it is all the result of my precise unhindered focus on what I wanted to attract. But there is an area where I have been treading unconsciously rather than with a good understanding of its importance. The area is instrumental in one’s individual success or the success of a group of people.
To succeed, you’ve got to be comfortable with the success of others.
It is logical: if you want to attract success in your life (wealth, love, and other goodness also count), you’d better get excited when others around you become successful. It makes no sense to only be happy when good things are happening in your life while the rest of the world lies in misery.
Paradoxically, the majority of people only get excited when they achieve things for themselves and maybe a few loved ones. They almost consider themselves as the only people out there worthy of achievement and recognition. When others are recognised and become successful, a lot of people go out of their ways to belittle, bemoan and deplore the others’ achievement.
It doesn’t mean that these people can never become successful just because they’re inviting success to themselves while resenting other successful people. What it does mean, though, is that whatever success they find will not be enough to make them happy or truly rich: because they’re taking pleasure not in Success as such but in an infinitely small part of it.
When people lose their attitude to the job they effectively lose positive, comfortable attitude to life and to people. They no longer focus on the abundance of opportunities to succeed that make success accessible to just about anyone. Instead they concentrate on that share of universal Success that can enter their own life, and this share will always be too small not to care about it. Suddenly they’re dominated by a poverty conscience rather than move forward guided by the knowledge that there is always more than enough for everybody.
In case you are wondering if this can really be true, I have just tried this on myself. A month ago at one huge meeting I had the opportunity to open my inner gates to the universal flow of success and achievement. I was incredibly happy for everyone’s achievement even though my own achievements have so far been modest. The result didn’t keep me waiting, and within days I stunned myself with what I was able to do.
